Making a mature guild member
by Eli Shayotovich 
Mar 11th 2008 at 8:00PM
Filed under: Real life, Culture, Guilds, MMO industry, Tips and tricks, Opinion, Virtual worlds
Normally I don't write about World of Warcraft (it' s just not my type of game), but Matt from World of Matticus has written a blog listing 20 characteristics that he thinks every "mature" WoW guild member should have. It got me thinking...Thinking it was sad that he had to write it at all. Unfortunately, the term "mature" and "gamer" are terms not usually associated with each other. I don't say this out of hate, I say this out of experience. I'm a 40 year old gamer who has been around since day one of the Gaming Age. The garbage I've heard uttered in game chat and seen erupt on guild sites would make a prison inmate blush.
Matt writes this article out of his love for WoW, but the topic stretches across all game genres and can (and should) apply to any assembled mass of people (whether they're in a guild, a clique, a supergroup or just friends hanging out) in any game - massively or fragger.
While Matt's list is very good... I have an even simpler suggestion. A self -contained nugget of wisdom that would condense all 20 of those characteristics into one.
Treat everyone online as if they were standing next to you in real life.
What I mean by that is act and speak as though the anonymous, faceless person(s) you just dropped a racial slur on, slung a verbal barb at, stole loot from, insulted, or gave an ill-advised sexual innuendo to was their in the room with you. See, back in the day - long before PCs and gaming consoles made everyone virtual bullies and took the place of playing out in the yard with your friends - treating someone bad got you a righteous beating. There were immediate consequences for bad behavior, thus limiting the bad behavior.
The attitudes and filth spewed online and in guilds are perpetrated for one simple reason: people feel safe and secure hidden behind their monitor, far removed from the person(s) they're lashing out against. There are no consequences for their actions, thus this behavior has spiraled out of control.
Be the one that changes all that. The next time you feel the blood roiling up... take a deep breath and pretend the person you're about to unleash the hounds of hell on is standing next to you. Take another deep breath and remember this sage piece of advice: think before you act.
Reader Comments (Page 1 of 1)
Joe P said on 8:45PM 3-11-2008
Amen
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Ghen said on 8:50PM 3-11-2008
I could put it even more succinctly in a motto from a previous guild.
Don't be a dick.
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Emberlei said on 7:17PM 3-13-2008
Even with the supposed anon status that people like to hide behind, folks are starting to realize that they can't always be dicks and get away with it.
Just recently, an "acquaintance" in FFXI had his account hacked - presumably by someone who really disliked him with a key logger. He had all his "hard work" (possible gil buyer!) tossed away not only once, but twice in the form of the katana relic, Kikoku.
In Second Life, another friend is about to have her business snatched from her because she ran afoul of someone who was less-than-stellar in that he ripped a lot of her textures and is threatening to pass them out. Even worse, he claims to have her real life info. Whether or not that is true doesn't matter.. we shouldn't live in fear, but there are two sides to every argument, minimum. Just because someone is acting like a douche doesn't mean we should automatically turn the other cheek and offer them a sunny smile.
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GRT said on 11:06AM 3-12-2008
Dunno about all the items on that list. Generally its good, but I think what he really wants is Mature Hardcore players.
"Has a high sense of self esteem and confidence."
So you can be the nicest, most patient, most even-tempered person in the world but if you're new to the game and still unsure of yourself, he doesn't want you.
"Gives 110% effort in everything they do."
So casual players, again, no matter how well-behaved, are not welcome.
"Has an open mind and is willing to try anything."
That's not mature, that's a sheep. A mature person is willing to accept the responsibility that comes with not going along with every hare-brained scheme that comes along.
I think Ghen's list is actually a better one.
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