Divorce news brings surge of Second Life signups
Filed under: Culture, News items, Second Life, Virtual worlds

An old saying goes "There's no such thing as bad press, so long as they spell your name right" which is normally attributed to P.T.Barnum, but there are a few quotes attributed to Barnum that weren't his, so we'll take that with a grain of salt. Right now, it seems more proper to say "There's no such thing as bad press, so long as there's a whiff of salaciousness about it."
The mainstream media's spent the last few days spreading around a story about a UK couple who are getting a divorce because the husband apparently won't stop fooling around online. Maybe she was taking it too seriously. Maybe he wasn't taking it seriously enough. Either way, it is serious enough now.
Now, much of the actual reporting about the couple, their situation, and Second Life (their most recent haunt) is pretty much utter tripe. Badly researched, poorly informed twaddle, really. But that doesn't matter, because it is causing a bit of a veritable torrent of new signups to Linden Lab's virtual world.
User-run new-user-support groups have been encountering difficult-to-manage numbers of new users who are trying to figure out the service, and are working to try to attend to as many of the new users as possible to ease their initial experience. Some Second Life volunteers say that the new user orientations "are beyond overloaded". Signups have as much as quadrupled over the usual rates.
It is quite possible (and indeed even likely) that nearly every one of those new users will be lost when they regretfully discover that Second Life just isn't all about sex.
Anyone who thinks that the ordinary person in the street wouldn't be intrigued by such titillating and salacious tales ... probably doesn't really know people very well.
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Reader Comments (Page 1 of 2)
Crap Mariner said on 3:22PM 11-15-2008
"Due to abuse of the Partnership system by a few residents, the load on the grid by a rapid influx of perverted new users is causing severe performance and service issues. We'll have to increase the price of Partnerships by 66%."
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Cyn said on 5:28PM 11-15-2008
The surge is very amusing! I wonder if the old standbys like phone sex lines get surges when people divorce over *them*?
One of the SL communities I read has been amused over the tripe. Pretty much the reaction can be summed up as "why do people who can't communicate get married in the first place?"
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Haizo Baum said on 5:37PM 11-15-2008
It's sad (but typical) that the press focuses on the divorce, but then the only paper that ever tried to print only good news didn't last long.
The other way to look at events is that two people otherwise perhaps less likely than most to find partners found each other through the use of a virtual world.
Unfortunately (or maybe not) they both continued playing in virtual worlds and, presumably by now somewhat more aware of the possibilities, both eventually found better partners. Sadly, one found a better partner before the other though.
Still, the final score as I see it is that they both found better partners the second time around which, in my personal experience at least, is no different to real-life with no help from any virtual worlds.
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Jacek Antonelli said on 5:52PM 11-15-2008
Hah, great image!
I'm personally just about sick to death of all the big news outlets hyping up the same non-story. I'm hoping that it'll pass quickly -- that's "pass" in the same sense as "pass a kidney stone".
But it's nice to see a fresh angle presented in this article, at least.
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Tab said on 7:27PM 11-15-2008
It's raining men. Nice screenshot :)
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Cyn said on 8:28PM 11-15-2008
There's at least one female in there, though-- the standard purple shirt Girl Next Door, I think.
Doubledown Tandino said on 11:55PM 11-15-2008
Ironically, my past previous RL career involved studying and working for the late great P.T. Barnum (Kenneth Feld's ringling bros... clown stuff... but i digress) .... ...so point being, I have a Bachelors of Comedic Arts and know much about circus history.
P.T. Barnum's only true quote said by him is
"There's a sucker born every minute."
..... i have a feeling most other quotes probably came from Yogi Berra
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Tateru Nino said on 12:05AM 11-16-2008
Actually, I beg to differ. That was banker David Hannum. The sucker he was referring to at that point was Barnum himself.
Doubledown Tandino said on 12:38AM 11-16-2008
I beg to beg to differ lol. Because it's funny that this conversation came up in the class, and is usually a point that's brought up. History doesn't know who said it but it defintiely involved those two people.
I dunno really, but the tale involves the both of them standing outside the front of a freak show circus tent watching people fork over money to go in and see some weird circus show...
This is the guy that taught me circus history. Very awesome dude:
"LaVahn Hoh’s first encounter with the circus was momentous. “It made such an impression on me that I can still describe what I saw that day,” he recalls. Fifty years later, Hoh is as passionate about the circus as ever—but now he knows more about it than all but a handful of people.
Hoh, a professor of drama and an expert in technical theater and special effects, could never get the sawdust out of his veins. As an adult, he continued to go to circuses every chance he could, visiting such shrines for circus lovers as the Circus World Museum in Baraboo, Wisconsin, and the Ringling Museum of the Circus in Sarasota, Florida."
http://www.iath.virginia.edu/~fmj4f/web/circus_news.html
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Doubledown Tandino said on 12:41AM 11-16-2008
Here's from wikipedia which goes with Tateru's
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/There's_a_sucker_born_every_minute
"There's a sucker born every minute" is a phrase often credited to P.T. Barnum (1810 – 1891), an American showman. It is generally taken to mean that there are (and always will be) a lot of gullible people in the world.
However, when Barnum's biographer tried to track down when Barnum had uttered this phrase, all of Barnum's friends and acquaintances told him it was out of character. Barnum's credo was more along the lines of "there's a customer born every minute" — he wanted to find ways to draw new customers in all the time because competition was fierce and people could become bored easily.
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Tateru Nino said on 12:42AM 11-16-2008
Here's the version as I was taught it :)
http://www.historybuff.com/library/refbarnum.html
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dandellion Kimban said on 4:41AM 11-16-2008
Actually those two (as Haizo pointed) had luck. But what interests me is what will happen with all those brainless noobs that floods us. And what's in their heads when they think that every girl will find them great lovers just because it's virtual world? And how all this will affect the world in the long term?
http://metaverse.acidzen.org/2008/flood-sex-obsession-second-life
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Skate Foss said on 1:12PM 11-16-2008
As one of the 100's of SL Mentors who rushed to the HIs to try and manage the hordes rezzing in, we were completely caught off guard for what was about to happen. The usually quiet HIs were packed, and the newbies continued to rez in 5, 6 and more at a time.We kept asking each other what was going on, why was this happening? Then the questions started..."what do you do here?'' "what can I do here?" "Are you real, can you strip for me?" "How do I have sex?" -the questions became more and more obscene. One mentor found two newbies trying to engage in sex acts in the Freebie House. I had 3 males trying to hump me. After refusing to explain how to engage in cyber sex, on newbie began taunting me with shouts of 'Mentor, You Suck".
The Lab knew about the BBC story and didn't fore warn us. The VTeam kept urging us to go to the HIs.
Many of these 'residents' are obviously underage. And all of these new residents are coming here with wrong ideas of how the majority of SL users interact.
What angers me also, is the bravado on the official SL Volunteer blog of what a great job we're doing welcoming the new residents. I know the 'new residents' have no idea what SL is truly about, I just didn't know some of our Mentors were also that out of it.
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Jay said on 7:09PM 11-16-2008
"Many of these 'residents' are obviously underage. And all of these new residents are coming here with wrong ideas of how the majority of SL users interact."
You lead a sheltered life on HI obviously. Do a search of top places and you will see how the majority of SL users interact, be it sex clubs, dungeons, Gor, strip shows, escorts... the list goes on.
Even Jim and Jane Smith have a sexgen.
Sorry, you need to step outside the small world you are in and see that all that is left in SL is the sex. Prim penises and orange (or green) spam.
Skate Foss said on 7:45PM 11-16-2008
You are so right Jay. I guess I missed Torley Lindens How-to Blogs on Cyber Sex. And all the other sex related posts on the Linden Blogs that I'm supposed to read as a Mentor. And all my friends...you are so right! I never knew they were only here for the sex. wow. Do you think theres porn on SLCN tonight?
Kara Spengler said on 2:24PM 11-17-2008
Coming on the heels of the vteam being overjoyed that they got rid of so many good mentors with the registration mess you would think they would give us that remain the tools to do what we volunteered to do.
dandellion Kimban said on 3:18PM 11-16-2008
Skate, you know how much some mentors don't know about SL, viewer, grid and the things one expects from somebody that is around more than six months? Sure you do, you seee questions on mentor channel.
I agree, we should have been warned. It's not only the amount of newbs, it's the idea that drove them in-world. It's not the same when somebody comes out of curiosity and tends to use SL as social media, when somebody comes as experienced gamer and will maybe build or script and when somebody comes with all the blood in their pants tripping about wild cybersex.
I don't mind if somebody comes because of cybersex. If asked politely, I'll talk about that and explain and show how to enable mature searches. But two guys were bloody close to orbiting last night.
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dandellion Kimban said on 10:10PM 11-16-2008
Jay, it's not about if people in SL have cybersex. We all know they do. But large part of the grid is free of rudeness we saw this weekend. Though, maybe you are right, I am not visiting some sims.
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Shug Maitland said on 1:03AM 11-17-2008
Sex is everywhere in SL, yet eventually we settle down, get to work, and make something productive (and hopefully profitable).
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Tateru Nino said on 1:19AM 11-17-2008
Sex is everywhere in RL, yet eventually we settle down, get to work, and make something productive (and hopefully profitable). :)